Advice Series: Melissa

June 5th, 2012 at 7:22 am.

It’s Tuesday which means: time for some advice!

Today’s advice is from Melissa. She blogs at Suger Coat It; a blog about living the sweet life. Her blog’s rather sweet too so naturally I’m thrilled that she’ll be sharing some advice with us today.

 

Don’t take it so seriously.

This little gem of advice goes around and around. I think I heard it most when I was a teenager and young adult. I was a serious type with a tendency towards the dramatic. I was anxious, depressed, overwhelmed. Everything felt like it was the end of the world or at very least, the end of me. I got absolutely nothing done because I was in a perpetual state of chaos, panic and worry.

Then all at once the most influential people in my life all started saying the same thing. Don’t take it so seriously. Life is a game. Play with your whole heart, sure. But remember it’s a game. And you make up the rules.

Whether you are a success or not is determined by you. Whether you have everything you want or not, that is of your making. Life can be as simple or as complicated as you wish it to be.

I took some time to process this. But if I wasn’t serious, how could I make a difference in the world. If I pretended like life was a game, what was the point? What did I want for myself anyway, and who was helping me get it.

With some training and some practice, I was able to play the game. Give it my whole heart. Impact people and lives and not crash myself against the rocks doing so. While I might have broken my heart more times than I care to admit. I never broke it.

Life isn’t serious. Nobody gets out alive.

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  1. Dizzy Lizzie!
    Jun 05, 2012 @ 12:11 pm

    You are so pretty, Melissa! Your eyes are GORGEOUS!!!! I love the advice. :)

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  2. Laura
    Jun 05, 2012 @ 2:15 pm

    I love this. It’s a great piece of advice and a nice reminder. Sometimes I stress myself out when I fail to live up to my own expectations but maybe I shouldn’t take it too seriously!

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  3. Jeanie
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 4:43 am

    I read Suger Coat It and love it. Great advice from Melissa. I don’t think I’ve ever been the dramatic type, but I do lean towards being the anxious type. Okay lean was a bit light, I’m all over anxious. I’m away this weekend with one plan – breathe and don’t take myself too seriously. =)

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    • Melissa {Suger}
      Jun 06, 2012 @ 10:53 am

      Thanks Jeanie. Breathe indeed. A reminder we all need at times.

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  4. Melissa {Suger}
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 5:28 am

    Thanks so much for having me. I’m always happy to make new bloggy friends and find new places to read and hang out. Lame, but true.

    Thanks Dizzy Lizzie! What a sweet heart you are.

    Laura, I’m glad. Give it everything and be proud of the result no matter what it is. That’s my motto. ;)

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    • Karen
      Jun 06, 2012 @ 7:06 am

      There’s nothing lame about it. My pleasure really.

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  5. Cassie
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 7:42 am

    Love it Melissa. Just oozes you. A lot shorter than I expected but you said it all. xxx

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    • Melissa {Suger}
      Jun 07, 2012 @ 2:59 pm

      Thank you Cassie. I thought so too. But when a post is done, it’s done. Haha.

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  6. Mrs Woog
    Jun 06, 2012 @ 8:26 am

    Damn straight xx

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  7. ana magdalena
    Jun 07, 2012 @ 9:55 pm

    I so needed this! Thank you :)

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